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Practice Failure !!!

| Umadevi Dhanasekaran

Why we need to discuss “Acceptance of failure”?

We, humans, have lots of emotions and expressions within us why Acceptance takes more important to have a talk around it?

We are emotionally driven beings, it is our actions that will decide our fate or journey.

Our actions are based on our choices which we take, choices are based on the thoughts around the situation. To have a clear thought on a situation, we should accept our present situation. If we are successful we will be accepting it very gracefully meanwhile, if we get a failure!! it is not easy to take it. 

We should Practice Failure!!!!

Most Millennials would be a parent now, As a parent, it is our responsibility to train our kids to have an optimistic mindset. Kids should be capable of handling both success and failure. They should have denial in their life, if we are giving them whatever they are asking then they will be expecting the same from the open world. When they get a first denial or failure they don’t know how to handle them. Those failures turn up into their disappointment and their disappointment will make them take very serious actions.

So teaching them to accept their failure is the first step in shaping their lives for their future.

So teaching them to accept their failure is the first step in shaping their lives for their future.

Not just kids even we have a lot of concerns in acceptance.
Even We can’t wait in a pedestrian signal for 2 – 3 seconds more after we see a green signal. If someone passed our vehicle on a road we can’t accept that. These are the small things which we are doing in our day to day life, let’s make a difference. Accept it and act upon it.

Be the change....

Make a difference !!!! Accept the failure!!!!! Beautify the life

Facts which we need to know,

In India, about 46,000 suicides occurred each in 15–29 and 30–44 age groups in 2012 – or about 34% each of all suicides
https://www.fairobserver.com/region/central_south_asia/india-student-suicides-mental-health-south-asia-news-75495/
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/37-of-women-committing-suicide-in-the-world-are-indians-indian-men-account-for-24-of-cases/articleshow/65790506.cms

In all the above cases, if they would have approached their own problems in a systematic way with a strong mindset things would have taken in a different course.

Thanks, everyone for reading my article about the Acceptance of failure. Please share your thoughts on this article about our lives.

Failure!!!! yes I accept. wait, wait, no why should I accept?

| Umadevi Dhanasekaran

“Acceptance of Failure” is the only way to make your next success note in life’s harmony.

Is that much easy, to accept? then why lots of people in depression if they accept their mistakes moving forward toward success. No, it’s not.

Let’s find the reason why the brain is not accepting it

Hmmm “What is the reason behind this”?

Reason can be identified using the established and recognized steps.
Let’s apply the universal strategy for finding the answers, introspect the situation. When we say that I am not admitting or you are not admitting, it is the brain that takes a choice on behalf of us.

Our brain has two paths now, Should I accept? or I shouldn’t accept it?

A perfect state of dilemma, How can we resolve this dilemma? Analyse the choices which we have and apply the method to it.

The brain is taking a decision by applying the intelligence which it has acquired through the lifetime from practice and behavior. The behavior which practiced can create two different intelligence in your brain.

Entity theory of intelligence and the Incremental Theory of intelligence

These two intelligence are important agents that will act as a deciding factor at the time of facing failure.

Let’s assume that two humans are taking an exam with two different intelligence. They are trying to give an answer to a difficult problem. As a result, both failed.

Brain with entity theory based intelligence will express negativity by blaming himself that “I am not smart enough”, the other brain expresses its response in a more optimistic way like “I have not tried enough”.

The first category’s negativity towards approach will trigger his EGO, which in turn, creates a huge barrier in the mind for learning the mistake and blocks the way to move forward. Later will create an optimistic environment and it will try to learn the mistakes and will fill the gap to move forward,which can easily accept the mistake which led to the failure.

Now we found out how and why the brain shows the response to a failure in two distinct ways. If your goal is to make your life toward beautiful harmony please make your brain practice and improve the “Incremental Theory of intelligence”.

Look for sunshine in the dark sky.

If you want your brain to have Incremental intelligence, it should “Begin with Acceptance”. Incremental intelligence and Acceptance are mutually connected.

By practicing this process, you can train your brain to take the decision in every state of dilemma.

Finding the reason for your failure will take you to the next note of your life’s harmony, fixing the known mistakes will turn your note into
“a success and most stunning piece of harmony”.

why did I choose to write about the handling of failure over other things of human behaviour? I will tell you all about this in my next write up on this subject.

Yay!!!! Here i have failed again :)

| Umadevi Dhanasekaran 
Did the title of this post lead you here to read this writeup? if it is yes, 
then we have a serious issue in understanding and being an optimist

The toughest part of every human being is Acceptance and Letting it go.

What? come on i have did that tooooo many times.
courtesy tenor

Yes, I can listen to your thoughts that is true. Most people think that they can do this very easily.

But the things which you have in your mind and which I am about to tell both are the exact opposite. We will be very happy to let go of the things which we don’t need seriously and we will accept the notions very happy if the result is in the way as we expected.

But the opposite of that will be very tough for many peoples and for few peoples it is totally impossible

courtesy tenor

Time presents you with various events in your life. It depends upon the actions which we use in the given point, Success and Failure are a 50-50% possibility of our life.

The possibility of success always will not be on our side. Life is like a harmony in which time presents lots of possibilities for us. Success and Failure both will be there in the time, constantly we cannot keep only either success or failure in our harmony that will be boring. To make that harmony into a masterpiece, we should order both “Failure and Success” in a proper way.

We would have heard many people saying that they are very much depressed because of failure in an exam or I lost in the game. Depression is a big problem that happens to any human being.

But what brings that depression? Is it the failure which we had,

No!!! if we do perfect introspection on our selves it will be certain that unacceptance of the failure brings you the depression. So if the goal is to make a masterpiece of harmony "accept the failure".

Creating life as appealing as harmony is in our hands. Let's accept the failure and enhance the beauty of our days.